Being Gay, Not A Happy Life

Some of you that came across the title of this article will have clicked on the link, while rising in your mind are all kinds of preconceived notions about what another narrow minded gay basher is going to say.  May I ask, just honestly listen for a moment.  First, I may say some things that you have heard before and do not like.  And then, I hope that I will be able to communicate a number of facts (not stereotypes) that you may have never been confronted with before.  Second, I reject the title gay basher because that title carries with it an assumption of hatred.  I want to say right up front that I am 100% against homosexuality, but that does not mean I hate you, if you are gay.  Certainly you do not want to be so narrow minded to think that a person who disagrees, even strongly, with you automatically hates you.  On that basis, let us go on.


I want to look at three groups of facts: 1)  the facts dispelling the “born that way” misnomer,  2) the medical facts and consequences of, and  3) the facts about God’s position on “homosexuality.”  I am going to try very hard to present these facts clearly, and with brevity.  You will find numerous hyperlinks in this article to referenced material on other web sites.  You will notice one major source for information is the National Association for Research & Therapy of Homosexuality (NARTH).  NARTH is pro-gay, and appears to me to be very honest and open in the realm of scientific research (medical and psychological) into homosexuality. 



1.  Facts Dispelling the “Born that Way” Misnomer”


When people speak of being born a certain way they are making a claim that their genetic makeup determined that ‘way.’  This is a massive claim, to which there is no evidence.  But you will say, ‘I have heard in the media of scientific studies done that prove a ‘gay gene.’  Yes, you have heard that in the media. That does not mean it is true.  The immediately following quoted material is from Is There a “Gay Gene”? copyrighted by NARTH.  I reference this article because it is an excellent summary of this discussion.  The ‘basketball study’ illustration is great.  To read more of NARTH’s publications on this subject click here.


The misnomer began in July 1993.  A study by Dean Hamer was published in Science, and “research seemed to be on the verge of proving that homosexuality is innate, genetic, and therefore unchangeable normal variant of human nature.”  What happened next is that the national media and interest groups jumped on this as proof positive of a gay gene.  At least that is how the general public understood the media.  Over thirteen years later many people that you ask on the street think that homosexuals are born that way.


Interestingly enough, that same Dean Hamer in an interview with Scientific American “was asked…if homosexuality was rooted soley in biology.”  His answer was:


“Absolutely not.  From twin studies, we already know that half or more of the variability in sexual orientation is not inherited.  Our studies try to pinpoint the genetic factors…not negate the psychological factors.”


Hamer’s research has been distorted and the distortion stem from a terminology problem.  Scientists very frequently have different terminology, which they use to communicate within their field of study. The average person, if not aware will misunderstand them.  The misunderstanding stems from the words, heritable and inherited.  There is a big difference between heritable and inherited.  As the NARTH article explains, “Almost every human characteristic is in significant measure heritable.  But few human behavioural traits are directly inherited, in the manner of height, for example, or eye color.  Inherited means “directly determined by genes,” with little or no way of preventing or modifying the trait through a change in the environment.”


So what has happened is that the media gives us unqualified sound bites, we misunderstand, and a lie is perpetrated, either unintentionally or intentionally.


There is so much more that could be said.  I would recommend reading NARTH’s article The Animal Homosexuality Myth, as supposed homosexual practices in animals is postulatede as normal and used as support for normalcy in mankind.


The flip side to this truth, that a homosexual is not born that way, is a realization that practicing homosexuality is a learned practice and a choice.  Please think about this.  Be honest with yourself.  You got introduced to “homosexuality” somehow and then at some point you made a decision to do it.  It is the exact same with a person that gets introduced to heterosexual activity outside of marriage (porn literature, porn mags, talking with friends, etc.).  They have to make a conscious decision to do it, no matter how great the outside pressures and temptations.



2.  Medical Facts and Consequences of Homosexuality


Some fine print for self-styled ‘gay bashers.’    This is a very sad subject to deal with and if you are reading this and you are a hating-gay-basher you certainly can develop some compassion by reading the following.  I did not say that you had to stop hating the act of homosexual intercourse; this section should strengthen that conviction.  It is destroying people; and for that reason alone it is hateful.  What I said is that you should develop some compassion that will allow you to help people, not turn them off so that they cannot be helped.


The health consequences stemming from homosexual practices are varied and severe.  Please, do not allow fear to stop you from learning the truth by reading further.  Your life depends upon you knowing the truth and living accordingly.


When we begin to talk about health and homosexual practice the first things that comes to mind are STD’s, including HIV/AIDS.  Okay, let’s begin there then; but there is more to the health risks of homosexual practices than STD’s, although they do form a large part.  The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention in the United States of America puts forward the estimate that 65 million of its citizens have an STD that is incurable. (“Tracking the Hidden Epidemics: Trends in STD’s in the United States, 2000,”  That number is startling.  First that number is now seven years old, as I am writing this article in 2007.  Second, I feel it is safe to assume that countries like my Canada and the United Kingdom will be no better on a percentage basis.  Third, the U.S.A. has a population of some 360 million.  65 Million is a little over 18% of the total population.  Of course this 65 million number includes homosexuals and heterosexuals.  But consider, if you remove the children, monogamous married couples, and people over 65 years of age—lets conservatively say 50% of the population.  That leaves 180 million people, and it will be 65 million of these people that have incurable STD’s.  That means that 36% of the people out there ‘available’ for sex are infected with an incurable STD—more than one in every three.  To have anything but a monogamous marriage relationship is like playing Russian roulette (You know, the revolver with only one of six chambers loaded. Spin the chamber fast, when it stops, pull the trigger—it is gambling with suicide). 


More specifically to men having sex with men: the anal orifice was not made for an entrance, it was made for exit only.  The following information has been gleaned from the Corporate Resource Council’s White Paper, The Health Risks of Gay Sex, by John R. Diggs, Jr., M.D. 


Consequences and Health Risks to Anal-Penile activity:

(1)  “The anus is a delicate mechanism of small muscles.” “With repeated trauma, friction and stretching, the sphincter loses its tone and its ability to maintain a tight seal.”  The result is the leakage of fecal matter and permanent damage may result so that this leakage problem persists.

(2)  “The single layer tissue cannot withstand the friction associated with penile penetration, resulting in traumas that expose both participants to blood, organisms in feces, and a mixing of bodily fluids.”

(3)  In addition to this, “ejaculate has components that are immunosuppressive.”  That means any diseases entering the anus when the ejaculate is present do not get attacked by your immune system.  Note: This is not the case with vaginal penetration as the vagina is constructed very differently—for the purpose.

(4)  These facts “make anal-genital intercourse a most efficient manner of transmitting HIV and other infections.”

(5) Here is a list of diseases that are “extraordinary” in their frequency “among male homosexual practitioners as a result of anal sex.”

i.  Anal cancer

ii.  Chlamydia trachomatis

iii.  Cryptosporidium

iv.  Giardia lamblia

v.  Herpes simplex virus

vi.  Human immunodeficiency virus (HIV)

vii.  Human papilloma virus

viii.  Isospora belli

ix.  Microsporidia

x.  Gonorrhea

xi.  Viral hepatitis B & C

xii.  Syphilis


“Sexual transmission of some of these diseases is so rare in the exclusively heterosexual population as to be virtually unknown.  Others, while found among heterosexual and homosexual practitioners, are clearly predominated by those involved in homosexual activity.”  NARTH reports that the risk of anal cancers soars to 4000% in those who engage in anal sex.  They then quote “Sexual Behaviour and Increased Anal Cancer,” Immunology and Cell Biology 75 (1977); 181-183:  “There are substances in seminal fluid called ‘immuno-regulatory macromolecule’ that send out ‘signals’ that are only understood by the female body, which will then permit the ‘two in one flesh’ intimacy required for human reproduction.  When deposited elsewhere, these signals are not only misunderstood, but cause sperm to fuse with whatever somatic body cell they encounter.  This fusing is what often results in the development of cancerous malignancies.”  See entire article at NARTH.


The next homosexual practice we will throw some light on is oral-anal contact; on the street this is called rimming.  This practice obviously exposes the practitioners to a wide range of infections.  “In fact, there are so many infections that a syndrome called “the Gay Bowel” is described in the medical literature.”  My friend, this amounts to eating feces.  The list of infections is enormous.  Even typhoid has been reported.  Yes, typhoid is a “water-born disease, well known in the tropics…usually [the] result of ingestion of contaminated food or water while abroad.  But sexual transmission was diagnosed in Ohio in a series of male sex partners of one male who had traveled to Puerto Rico.” (CRC’s White Paper quoted above.)


In  addition to this is “fisting,” “the insertion of a hand or forearm into the rectum.”  Obviously this is very damaging and leads to tearing, “infections, inflammation and, consequently, enhanced susceptibility to future STD’s.”


Friend, if you are a homosexual, why would you do this to yourself?  At the very least these practices are reckless, at worst they are suicidal.  “A 1998 study in Seattle found that 10 percent of HIV-positive men admitted they engaged in unprotected anal sex, and the percentage doubled in 2000.”  That would be 20%!  If you do not care enough about yourself to stop this suicidal activity, I certainly care enough about you to ask you to stop, please.



3.  Facts about God’s Position on “Homosexuality”


Now, we have come to the most important part.  I told you I wanted to be as brief as possible.  I am trying.  Obviously, I did not mean “sound bite” when I said brief.  If you have stuck with me this long, it can’t hurt to bear it a bit longer.  Thanks!  It is obvious that “homosexuality” is destructive of self and others.  Let me start this way; as the Lord Jesus Christ said, “the life is more than meat, and the body is more than raiment.” (Lk. 12:23)  You are more than just a body with appetites (a.k.a. desires, or lusts) to be fulfilled.  For this reason it is foolish to live by the motto, ‘eat, drink, and be marry, for tomorrow we die.’  It is foolish because your existence on this earth is not the end for you.  Some day—sooner or later—your “soul shall be required of thee.” (Lk. 12:20)    The fact is, “it is appointed unto men once to die, but after this the judgment.” (Heb. 9:27) 


This is no light matter.  But, did you know that your Creator does not want you to be in the dark about having a productive and purposeful life now, the coming judgment, how you will fare at that judgment, and what His will is for you?  First, what about the coming judgment?  The Bible is God’s only written message to man, it says, God “hath appointed a day, in the which he will judge the world in righteousness by that man whom he hath ordained; whereof he hath given assurance unto all men, in that he hath raised him from the dead.” (Ac. 17:31)  God has given assurance that “all men” will be judged “by that man whom he hath” appointed to do the judging by raising that man from the dead.  The only man to achieve total victory over the grave was the Son of God, Jesus Christ.  The Lord Jesus told us before His death, “I lay down my life, that I might take it again.  No man taketh it from me, but I lay it down of myself. I have power to lay it down, and I have power to take it again.” (Jhn. 10:17-18)  The fact is that God hath raised up [Jesus], having loosed the pains of death: because it was not possible that he [Jesus] should be holden of it.” (Ac. 2:24) 


Therefore we know that the judgement is coming for sure.  Well, how will you do in that judgment?  Of course we will not be so foolish as to make up our own rules and think that God will use those to judge us by.  God made us, and the rules by which we are judged.  God does hate sin—I know people do not like to hear that God hates anything, but if you understood how murderously horrid sin is to you, and how vastly God loves you, you would wonder no longer why God hates sin. 


It is written in God’s Word:  “The fool hath said in his heart, There is no God. They are corrupt, they have done abominable works, there is none that doeth good.  The LORD looked down from heaven upon the children of men, to see if there were any that did understand, and seek God.  They are all gone aside, they are all together become filthy: there is none that doeth good, no, not one.” (Psa. 14:1-3)  We are all gone aside, all filthy, and none good.  Remember, God is judging you by His rules.  It is before God’s Son, Jesus Christ, that you will have to stand in judgment.  Your friend’s judgment, or the judgment of this world on you will count for nothing.  Here are some more things God has said about your judgment.


“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.” (Rom. 3:23)

“But your iniquities have separated between you and your God, and your sins have hid his face from you, that he will not hear.” (Isa. 59:2)


Because of the sin of the pre-flood world, God destroyed them with the flood—“And GOD saw that the wickedness of man was great in the earth, and that every imagination of the thoughts of his heart was only evil continually.” (Gen. 6:5)  God burned the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah—“the men of Sodom were wicked and sinners before the LORD exceedingly.” (Gen. 13:13)  My friend, if you remain as you are, in your sin—with the condemnation of your sin upon you—you will spend all eternity in tormenting Hell fire.


To deny the facts does not get rid of the fact—“If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.” (1Jhn. 1:8)


BUT God does not want you to die in your sin, under His condemnation, and go to Hell.  Here is the will of God for you, my friend.  God “commandeth all men every where to repent”—abandon their sin. (Ac. 17:30)  Jesus preached, “The time is fulfilled, and the kingdom of God is at hand: repent ye, and believe the gospel.” (Mk. 1:15)  God loves you and has proved it—“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (Jhn. 3:16)  Yes, God does love you.  He gave His only Son to die in your place.  God has declared that “the wages of sin is death.” (Rom. 6:23)  But God sent His Son to die in your place—a substitute to take your judgment.  And so the fact is “the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” 


The Lord Jesus Christ has made peace with God the Father for you—“And, having made peace through the blood of his cross, by him to reconcile all things unto himself;” (Col. 1:20)  The fact is “that God was in Christ, reconciling the world unto himself, not imputing their trespasses unto them…we pray you in Christ’s stead, be ye reconciled to God.  For he hath made him to be sin for us, who knew no sin; that we might be made the righteousness of God in him.” (2Cor. 5:19-21)


Friend, if you will, from your heart, repent of all your sins before God Almighty and believe that Jesus died for your, that by Jesus’ death and shedding of blood God will completely forgive your sin—then, in faith, call on the Lord Jesus to save you.  God never lies and always keeps His Word.  He will save you from your sins, and give you power to live a new life through Jesus Christ, the risen Saviour.


“Therefore being justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ.” (Rom. 5:1)


You will notice that I have not said anything about homosexuality being a sin.  You really do not need me to tell you that.  Your conscience, unless hardened like a flinty rock, will tell you that homosexuality is sin before God, your creator, judge, and saviour. (He wants to be your Saviour, if you will repent and believe.)


Here are a few statements from God about sins in general:

“Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.  For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.  And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.” (1Jhn. 2:15-17)

Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall.” (Pro. 16:18)

“Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.” (Gal. 5:18-21)


Here are a few statements from God about the sin of sodomy (called homosexuality in our politically correct world):

Sodomy is a sin that will condemn you just as lying or stealing. But when we note the consequences to a person’s mind and body who commits sins like fornication (any sex outside of marriage) and sodomy it is not far fetched to call them extreme sins. 

“… vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: and likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.” (Rom. 1:26-27)

“Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination.) Lev. 18:22)

 “There shall be no whore of the daughters of Israel, nor a sodomite of the sons of Israel.  Thou shalt not bring the hire of a whore, or the price of a dog, into the house of the LORD thy God for any vow: for even both these are abomination unto the LORD thy God.” (Deu. 23:17-18)

“Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind.” (1Cor. 6:9)

“Even as Sodom and Gomorrha, and the cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication, and going after strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the vengeance of eternal fire.” (Jude 1:7)

“For without are dogs, and sorcerers, and whoremongers, and murderers, and idolaters, and whosoever loveth and maketh a lie.” (Rev. 22:15)



This has been a long article.  If you have persevered to the end you must be thinking about this hard, and are obviously interested.  If you live in Nova Scotia, Canada I would love to meet with you and talk face to face.  Come out to Sunday morning service. See the time and place on this web site.  If you want to talk by email I am very interested in telling you more of the truth from God’s holy Word.  Thank you for reading.  I pray for the people, although I don’t know their names—God knows, who read the messages on our web site; so, I am praying for you.



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